This is a post dedicated specifically to my sisters in Christ who are considering or planning on seeing "Fifty Shades of Grey."
"But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called 'Today,' so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness." ~Hebrews 3:13~
"Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself." ~Galatians 6:1~
Now, I know you're an adult and you're free to read and watch what you'd like.
Friends, please ask yourself if you honestly feel that seeing this movie will honor God? Would you really read the book or watch the movie if you could see Jesus sitting beside you?
"So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart." ~2 Timothy 2:22~
"Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage ware against your soul." ~1 Peter 2:11~
If you read those verses and you've prayed about it, and you are still comfortable seeing the movie, then go. I am so very aware that I am not your Holy Spirit, and this is a decision that is ultimately between you and God ~ and your husband, if you're married. (Those who aren't married, consider your future husband.)
No, I haven't read the books. It's my choice to not read books that are classified as erotica, regardless of their popularity. I have read many reviews on the books, from fans and foes alike. Some of the discussion points for fans confuse me.
"It's a love story." Do you know how many books contain love stories that don't include graphic sex scenes? Or BDSM? Claiming to read this book for the story seems similar to your husband/son/father/brother saying he reads Playboy for the articles.
"She saves him from his past." Let's consider this. If you had a good friend that was involved in a relationship similar to Anastasia's with Christian, would you really, REALLY think that it was healthy? Would you encourage her to stay in it? Honestly, think about that. We would not counsel our friends to stay. If I told you that my ex-boyfriend experienced a great trauma at a young age, and that was when he started changing, and THAT is why he beat me often, would that excuse his behavior? No, it wouldn't. In my case, and in our fictional friend's case, the response would be that I/she could not change the man ~ only a relationship with Jesus Christ (and likely a licensed therapist) could.
If you are one of my precious friends who is not yet married, and who is faithfully waiting for your wedding night to have sex... Please don't taint your view of it with these books or this movie. I'm not an expert, but I just don't think that this is what God had in mind when He created sex.
Remember, God is not embarrassed by our sexuality, nor is He embarrassed to tell us good and harmful ways to live as sexual creatures.
Solomon knew that when he said to be be exhilarated with our spouse's love. Solomon knew these God-given desires can be most satisfyingly met by our spouse, with his body and soul in our bed. ~ Jonalyn Fincher ~
For those of you with daughters, please consider this letter, and ask yourself if you would want your girls reading the books or watching the movie.
I'll say it again, I'm not your Holy Spirit. This decision belongs to you, and I am praying that many of my Christian sisters who are enthusiastic about this movie will carefully consider if this is something that will honor God and truly benefit their thought life and their marriages.