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Thursday, February 11, 2010

Speak in short sentences. Use small words.

It has come to my attention through the years that men (yes, as a matter of fact I am making a broad generalization) don't take hints very well at all.  So The Husband usually doesn't have any problem knowing what I want for any gift-giving occasion, because I give it to him straight.  Sometimes he still does his own thing, though, and I'm okay with that.  Because he gives pretty awesome gifts. 

But a few weeks ago I saw something I really liked, and I simply forwarded The Husband a link, and I even included my size in case he agreed that it would make a good gift for me.  I checked the mail today, and apparently he did.

I saw that the package addressed to The Husband was from Union28, so I was pretty sure it was for me.  I was hoping he didn't intend it to be a surprise since he had it shipped to the house and I always check the mail, but I called him at work to make sure I could open it, just to be safe!  He told me I could, and said, "Happy ... Well, pick one." 

So that "I love my Husband" t-shirt is officially my Valentine's present.

Although, as aware as I am that hinting usually doesn't work, sometimes I catch myself being a little too subtle...

SUBTLE ATTEMPT: "Oh, you don't like it when I go for morning walks because my alarm wakes you up 45 minutes before you have to be up?  You know, I can really understand that.  You do need your sleep, Baby.  If only there was some way I could exercise regularly in the house... If only there was something I could use at home on days when both girls are at school, or even napping... Man.  What a dilemma!"

HIS RESPONSE: *picks up remote*  *Turns to ExerciseTV on Demand

SUBTLE ATTEMPT:  "Remember those earrings I got Stepsister for Christmas one year?  Or her birthday?  They were so pretty.  So, so pretty.  I was thinking about that because I saw some just like them at Kohl's, you know.  14 karat gold over sterling silver.  They're CZ stones, too, so they're not that expensive, especially since I think they were 60% off.  They're so pretty.  So, so pretty.  Oh, look at this e-mail from Kohl's!  15% of everything!  How nice..."

HIS RESPONSE: *stands up*  *goes to bedroom*  *opens jewelry box received two Christmas ago, the one that stands taller than the 3-year-old* *starts counting pairs of earrings already there*

Oh well.  You can't blame a girl for trying.

Besides, as much as I love getting gifts from him, I know that between God and The Husband, all of my needs are more than met.  And, as unworthy of it as I may be, many, many of my wants have been covered too.  So if I were to never get a gift again, I'd still be set.

Cheesy, but true.

How about you?  Do you try the subtle approach?  Or have there been any hits and huge misses with gifts from loved ones?  Spill it!

13 comments:

Too Many Hats said...

I have to be direct, as in hit him over the head with a hammer direct because left to his own devices it isn't pretty. He actually does appreciate my straight-forwardness on these matters. However, I did make it clear to him on several occassions to NEVER buy me clothes without me there - NEVER! I discovered, this hard and fast rule needs to be repeated before any gift-giving occassion when he got me a sweater on birthday that showed off every lump and bump and was the color of ick. God blessed him with many, many gifts - fashion sense is not one of them.

Michelle Hoad said...

I have learned to never say something is cool or neat if it isn't something I'm dying to have. Because in stead of buying me the things I have been asking for for the last 73 months, he will invariably buy the thing that I don't really care about, but once said was "sorta cool".

Sara said...

Ha!! I told Steve once that kitchen gadgets were ok presents for me (meaning cute KitchenAid things, like a mixer, or cute- shaped bakeware) which is how I got knives for my birthday. I also said I liked when my parents bought me giftcards (b/c their tatse struggles) and one year he spent his entire Christmas budget on one GC from Macys' So yeah, I email links now. Also, get a Wii Fit!!!

Mandi Miller said...

Can't do subtle with my husband. He needs specifics! Sometimes he can surprise me but more often he wants me to just spell it out for him! At least he is honest and wants to make sure he gets me what I really want!! I love that man!!!

Kitty Moore said...

I started off being subtle with Mark then I got direct. Neither approach worked - he still bought me what he wanted me to have. Perhaps unsurprising that the marriage didn't last!

Laura@Cowboy Boots said...

oh i tried the subtle route alright....he reminds me of all the other stuff i got for ....pick a holiday.
you lucky girl about the shirt...ur hubby gets triple pts for that!

w said...

i buy my own gifts. or i schedule them. like the vasectomy.

word.

Confessions From A Working Mom said...

I try the subtle approach now and then... and it doesn't work. So, I try to be more direct, but I HATE having to tell DH what to do-- it feels like nagging!

Yes, we're going to do it every week-- I hope it picks up steam! I feel bad putting Truthful Tuesdays on hold, so I hope Top 3 Thursdays fills the void!

~Elizabeth
Confessions From A Working Mom

Shell said...

My hints are more like a knock over the head b/c that is what it takes. If Hubs doesn't get it, he'll just flat out ask what to get me.

Insanitykim said...

Josh seems to know better what I want than I do. But, I did ask for the cocktail ring, and he went right over and bought it.

Sarah said...

I try to hint with my husband...but he always ends up doing something on his own. He doesn't like to be "told" what to do.

Katye Campbell said...

The first year we were dating, I went shopping with Jim to get a gift for his Secret Santa person. I was trying to get him to hurry up because we'd been EVERYWHERE with no success, so I said something about a Christmas quilt at Michael's being cute. Guess what I got for Christmas? It's still under the bed with the extra blankets.
Oh, and next time I go to Dallas, I'll buy you a pair of earrings just like that at Sam Moon for $8.50.

Tracie said...

Subtlety doesn't work with my husband. Nor does the dirct approach. If I want something I have to get it myself or go without. Yeah me. *dripping in sarcasm*