Friday, November 5, 2010

Day Five.

30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers."  Ephesians 4:29

Today she asks, "Do you edify your husband before others, adding to his value in their eyes?  This is especially important to other family members."

Well, I asked one of my good friends if I did that, if I built up The Husband in front of others.  She said:

"I say absolutely yes.  I mean I think {he} is pretty much a goober, but you always make him sound so awesome!"

(Don't worry, she called him a 'goober' in Christian love.)

So I feel comfortable saying I build him up in front of others. But I think I mentioned in the beginning that I have more of a problem saying these things to him directly. (And while I am sending these to him each day, I'm also trying to verbally express my appreciation to him face-to-face.)

I have also taken the time to write little notes to The Husband's parents from time to time, thanking them for their role in making him the man that he is. I think it might be nice for parents to know that their child's spouse adores them and thinks the world of them. I know that I would want to know that of my girls' husbands, someday in the future. The distant, distant future.

Anyway, I have been around women who put down their husbands in public, and... I just don't want to be like that.

So today's was good for me. I think it's okay to give myself a little encouragement from time to time, and this is something I'm not bad at.

And to The Husband... I do think you're awesome, and I do want people to know that I think you're awesome, because you are awesome. (Got that?) I love you so much.

To read what this is all about, click here.


Snuggle Wasteland said...

If/when I become a MIL I would love to hear that kind of praise from my DIL. It might take some of the sting out of the fact that she stole my precious baby away from me. (kidding!)

Mass Hole Mommy said...

Awwww....I hope he reads this!

Shell said...

I think I'm pretty good at this, too. Because I do love my husband, I don't want people to hear the bad coming from my mouth. They'll think that is all there is.

The exception is probably when I'm with my bestie, b/c we talk about everything.

MiMi said...

This is something that I need to work on. :(

From Tracie said...

I think you and I talked about this.

Speaking and writing the nice things is a very good thing...and you are very good at it! =)

I love the idea of writing notes to his parents. How genius!

Venassa said...

I try to talk my boyfriend up and avoid venting about him, because I know most people will only absorb the bad, and ignore all the great things he does.

shortmama said...

I like to think Im really good at talking positively about my hubs to others...but Im sure I can be more conscious of it and also tell the hubs directly!

hotpants™ said...

I always do this. My poor friends aren't as lucky so I make sure to share how lucky I am. (in a non-gloating kind of way)