"...be swift to hear, slow to speak..." James 1:19b
I know I've heard it before, but she basically reminds me that there's a reason I have TWO ears and ONE mouth -- I NEED TO LISTEN MORE!
I want to be a good listener. One thing I realized early on was that I didn't have to understand what he was talking about in order to listen to what he was saying. I mean, sometimesI just want to talk to be heard, he doesn't have to "get" everything I'm talking about.
But because I like to be an active listener, I will ask questions, because I want to take an interest in things that are important to him.
I will admit, though, that there are times I feel like I can tune him out because he's not saying something earth-shattering. And I will definitely admit to not really hearing what he's saying.
I will never forget one of our first big arguments. I was talking about auditioning for a drama thing that the church was doing, and I was explaining how much time was spent in rehearsals, etc. He made a comment, and I had heard what he said, but I wasn't really listening, because I totally took it out of context and went off on a tangent. When he finally got me to stop using my mouth and start using my ears, and I heard the words that were coming out of his mouth, I realized what he had actually said was pretty sweet.
To The Husband, I hope that I'm not a horrible listener when you're talking. What you say is important to me. My prayer is that I will make more of an effort to be slow to speak and quick to listen, especially to you.