Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Day Nine. Speaking S L O W L Y.

30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"...be swift to hear, slow to speak..." James 1:19b

I know I've heard it before, but she basically reminds me that there's a reason I have TWO ears and ONE mouth -- I NEED TO LISTEN MORE!

I want to be a good listener.  One thing I realized early on was that I didn't have to understand what he was talking about in order to listen to what he was saying.  I mean, sometimes I just want to talk to be heard, he doesn't have to "get" everything I'm talking about.  

But because I like to be an active listener, I will ask questions, because I want to take an interest in things that are important to him.  

I will admit, though, that there are times I feel like I can tune him out because he's not saying something earth-shattering.  And I will definitely admit to not really hearing what he's saying.

I will never forget one of our first big arguments.  I was talking about auditioning for a drama thing that the church was doing, and I was explaining how much time was spent in rehearsals, etc.  He made a comment, and I had heard what he said, but I wasn't really listening, because I totally took it out of context and went off on a tangent.  When he finally got me to stop using my mouth and start using my ears, and I heard the words that were coming out of his mouth, I realized what he had actually said was pretty sweet.

To The Husband, I hope that I'm not a horrible listener when you're talking.  What you say is important to me. My prayer is that I will make more of an effort to be slow to speak and quick to listen, especially to you.

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Snuggle Wasteland said...

Well, The TO never talks so I don't have to worry about this one so much.

Michelle Hoad said...

I am totally guilty of this one. With seven kids and a high maintenance husband, sometimes I just get tired of hearing people talk. Ok, alot of times. I have to ask people to repeat what they are saying all the time so I actually hear the words and process them.

MiMi said...

Um. I'm a HORRIBLE listener. I can look right at my husband and not listen. I can hear, but not know what he's saying.

purseblogger said...

Something else we have in common my dear. I've put my foot in my mouth with my hubby more times than I'd like to admit.