Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Day Sixteen. A little more conversation.

30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"And the LORD God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.'" Genesis 2:18

She says, "God has made you a companion and helper for your husband, and part of being 'one flesh' with him is the privilege of sharing and discussing personal needs and concerns."  

I have been through a million couple of marriage conferences and have read a billion few books on marriage.  It's no secret to me that communication is an important factor.

I do know that it was in Love and Respect that they talked about how men speak with blue megaphones and listen with blue headphones, and women speak with pink megaphones and listen with pink headphones.  We do not communicate the same way, so something I need to do is actually remember that fact, and pay attention to the ways he is communicating with me, even if it's not the way I think he "should", or, more accurately, the way I want him to.  He does hear me, and I'm so blessed because he actually listens, he isn't just waiting to talk like  I  some people I know would be.

Another thing that I seem to struggle with in my role as helper is realizing that what may seem insignificant to me may be something very important to The Husband.  And if it matters to him, it should matter to me.

To The Husband -- you know how I always fuss that you don't make eye contact with me when I'm talking and I can't really tell if you actually are listening?  You always are.  Aside from the fact that you repeat back everything I've just said to show me that you are listening... You've never given me any reason to think that you wouldn't listen to me.  My prayer is that I will remember that and show you how much I value the fact that you do pay attention to what I say, and that I will do the same for you.

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MiMi said...

This is a very interesting one. My hubs listens to me but I'm guilty of not listening very well.

Sara @ Domestically Challenged said...

Very true. We often work on this same thing inour marriage. With both sides being the offender!

Home In The Hollow said...

I created a "conversation corner" years ago for us. But, so far, I'm the only one who sits there!!!...:)JP