Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Day Three.

30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

" suffers long, and is kind..." 1 Corinthians 13:4 
"And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:19

She wants me to let my husband know that I notice when he is considerate of my needs.

In the past few months I have come to realize that The Husband cannot be considerate of my needs if I do not let him know what they are.  Because, although he is incredible and wonderful and amazing, he is not a mind reader.  Go figure!  And there is a time and place to request that those needs be met.  And that time and place is not when I have been sitting around stewing about what he's not done for me rather than thinking about all that he has done for me, and because of that I'm bound to explode over something really trivial.

Not that that's ever happened or anything.

And that's really incredibly foolish of me given how considerate of my needs he actually is.

Then she wrote something else that stepped on my toes, more this time than before:

"Ultimately, you can't expect your husband to make you feel more secure, loved, etc. Remember that only God can meet the deepest needs of your heart."

Yep, that one stings a little.  Why?  Because my poor husband has enough to worry about in his own life, and here I am expecting him to fill my God-sized needs.  And I can be pretty needy.  I crave affection and attention and I want to know that I'm doing a good job basically all the stinkin' time.  And the thing is, I really should be looking for God's approval, not The Husband's.  It's great if The Husband thinks I'm awesome and all, but God's opinion matters more.

So... To my husband... I told you I was going to be honest here, and I hope that this doesn't embarrass you -- but I've noticed that you've been sweeter to me.  You've been more patient with me, too.  You have always, from the very beginning of our life as parents, been considerate of my need for time to myself and time with my friends.  I appreciate that so, so much.

I apologize for the expectations I've placed on you for so long, for you to fill the needs that God is meant to fill.  I'll admit that's something I struggle with probably on a daily basis, but I am, with God's help, working on it.  You work so hard to provide for so many of my needs -- physical, spiritual, emotional... How do you do it?  How do you do all of that for me, and for our family, and still have time for yourself?  I am ashamed that I've never thought of that before, actually.

Thank you for being considerate of my needs, and I'm praying that I will be more considerate of yours.

To read more about what this is all about, click here.


Eliza said...

Wow, I'm going to be reading your posts every single day!

MiMi said...

I used to think that my husband had to be a mind reader and just KNOW my needs. Didn't work out so well.

purseblogger said...

Ahh girl, I needed to hear this today. Thank you. xoxo