Friday, November 12, 2010

Day Twelve. Heart Check.

30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge for Wives

"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2

Taken from the devotion for the day: 

"How sad that we give 
more grace to others 
than to those in our own homes."

Ouch! My toes!

This makes me think of a time (or two hundred) when I answered the phone with a sweet and melodic, "Hello?"  Then I heard The Husband speaking, and suddenly my voice became completely flat.

Sort of like, "Oh. It's just you."

What's wrong with that picture?

It should be more like, "Oh! It's YOU!!!"

She also suggests that if I'm having problems finding things to praise about The Husband, maybe I should check my own heart.  Maybe I'm expecting too much.

Which, for me, would boil down to constantly noticing what The Husband isn't doing or what he's not doing the way I want it done.  

Because that sounds like an awesome wife to live with, right?

This was kind of straightforward for me.  At the end, she gives this advice:

"Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing."

Honey, you are already being an incredible husband.  An amazing father.  You are already providing for us, caring for us, loving us.  Providing for me, caring for me, loving me.  You are already doing so much, and I want you to know that I know.  I don't want to be unreasonably demanding and my prayer is that I will show you much grace and love.

To read what this is all about, click here.


MiMi said...

We were just talking about this the other day at bible study! We give, (me especially,) more grace to strangers than to the ones I love the most!

Michelle Hoad said...

I learned this lesson the hard way with a failed first marriage. This is actually one that I try really hard on. When I see his name on caller ID, I try to sound glad to hear his voice. Even if it is the 104th time he's called that day.